When my marriage is feeling dry as a desert, God’s word waters ME with growth-producing refreshment. Why would I rather aim a fire hose of pointed Bible verses at my husband?
Who’s the Most Spiritual?
I’m not sure why this is, but it seems that women in general enjoy being students of God’s word. When I’m talking to wives who call our hotline seeking help with a troubled marriage, I often hear that she is the more spiritual one.
That’s good news, because the one who is most spiritually mature holds the key to moving a marriage toward healing.
The key is simply Christ-like humility. Humility to ask God, “where have I failed in this conflict? What do You want me to know about my behavior?”
Honey, I know this doesn’t sound fair…or fun. Are you thinking why should it be me who goes first? Wouldn’t it be better to show my Christian maturity by aiming some well-chosen Scriptures at him?
Maybe this situation isn’t all about his failures. Maybe it’s about an opportunity for your spiritual growth.
My Response is my Responsibility
The humble mindset says “my response is my responsibility.”
The humble mindset resists using Gods word to drench hubby with ways he can improve. Instead, let God’s word water you with repentance, restoration and new life. Then splash joy on your spouse.
Just as rain and snow descend from the skies and don’t go back until they’ve watered the earth, Doing their work of making things grow and blossom, producing seed for farmers and food for the hungry, So will the words that come out of my mouth not come back empty-handed. They’ll do the work I sent them to do, they’ll complete the assignment I gave them.
Isaiah 55:10-11 MSG
A Caution…
One caution-Biblical humility is not becoming a doormat. It’s actually very powerful. Humility leads to great courage.
If you are in an abusive relationship, humility will give you the courage to get somewhere safe and set appropriate boundaries.
Then, get watered!
…because U count, deb