How do I see my husband? When I glance at my husband do I really see his inner qualities, his true identity? Or do I see the problems instead? Help me see like you do, Jesus!
How do I see my Husband?
When I glance at my husband do I really see him? Or do I see something else?
Do I see my unmet expectations and how he falls short? Maybe I see my “what if’s” and imagine a different life?
God created us in His image, with an identity that is holy and purposeful and wonderful. But the struggles we go through in life can cause us to hide our true identity under a mask. If it feels unsafe to be who we really are, so we try to hide it.
A talkative, inquisitive child born to a family of introverts may find himself in trouble when he talks too much or asks too many questions. Gradually he can stuff his words and questions inside, thinking there’s something wrong with him.
He ends up as an adult who is far different from the way he was designed. This is just one example of the way we can mask our true identity as children.
How does Jesus see my husband?
God is our Designer, His intent in creating us in His image is to give each of us a slice of “Jesus Genius.” That image remains inside of us, like a blueprint, forever. There’s nothing we can do to ruin it, destroy it, or change it. But we can hide it deep inside, under wounds and brokenness. Soon even we don’t know who we are.
But Jesus does! He sees the inside more than the outside. He knows our insides and longs for it’s potential to rise to the surface and drown the wounds in joy. He longs to set us free to be who we were created to be.
But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.
1 Samuel 16:7 ESV
Adjust my Vision, Jesus!
Do you have trouble seeing your husband’s true identity? When you look at him do you see disappointments and unmet expectations? You are not alone!
Here’s a short prayer you can pray to ask for God’s vision:
Imprint my husband’s true identity on my soul’s eyes, God. Help me to see him as you do. My expectations and “what if’s” are not Yours, and they cause discontent to bubble up inside of me. Your perception is true and good and excellent and worthy of praise. Amen.
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