Marriage Monday: February 19, 2018
Exterminate grudges before they suck the life out of your marriage.
“Carrying a grudge is like being stung to death by one bee.” William Walton
“Go ahead and be angry. You do well to be angry—but don’t use your anger as fuel for revenge. And don’t stay angry. Don’t go to bed angry. Don’t give the Devil that kind of foothold in your life.”
Ephesians 4:26-27 MSG
Marriage Monday: February 5, 2018
In what direction is your marriage going?
Hopefully not to “Ambercrombie and Fix my Husband.”
Certainly not to “Hugo (I’m the ) BOSS” or to “Restoration Hardly.”
Instead, let’s head to “Lord, Taylor Me!”
“The same goes for you wives: Be good wives to your husbands, responsive to their needs. There are husbands who, indifferent as they are to any words about God, will be captivated by your life of holy beauty. What matters is not your outer appearance—the styling of your hair, the jewelry you wear, the cut of your clothes—but your inner disposition. Cultivate inner beauty, the gentle, gracious kind that God delights in.”
1 Peter 3:1-4 MSG
Marriage Monday: January 29, 2018
Unforgiveness clutches both spouses in the claws of a painful memory. Forgiveness slays the dragon and sets both spouses free.
Learn about the two types of forgiveness in my book, Making Peace with Prickly People: Transforming Relationships by Loving God, Self, and Others (affiliate link).
“And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive them, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins.”
Mark 11:25 NIV
Marriage Monday: January 22, 2018
Marriage can become a battleground. Our true enemy wants us to fight the wrong foe [our spouse] with the wrong weapons [defensiveness, criticism, stonewalling, contempt].
“A final word: Be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. Put on all of God’s armor so that you will be able to stand firm against all strategies of the devil. For we are not fighting against flesh-and-blood enemies [our spouses], but against evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world, against mighty powers in this dark world, and against evil spirits in the heavenly places. Therefore, put on every piece of God’s armor so you will be able to resist the enemy in the time of evil. Then after the battle you will still be standing firm. Stand your ground, putting on the belt of truth and the body armor of God’s righteousness. For shoes, put on the peace that comes from the Good News so that you will be fully prepared. In addition to all of these, hold up the shield of faith to stop the fiery arrows of the devil. Put on salvation as your helmet, and take the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God. Pray in the Spirit at all times and on every occasion. Stay alert and be persistent in your prayers for [your husband].”
Ephesians 6:10-18 NLT, [my comments]
Marriage Monday: January 15, 2018
Pluck out weeds of bitter discontent and shower your husband with life-giving encouragement. Watch his confidence mushroom.
“Asked about his habits in the garden, Prince Charles replied: “I just come and talk to the plants, really – very important to talk to them, they respond.”“
“Work at getting along with each other and with God. Otherwise you’ll never get so much as a glimpse of God. Make sure no one gets left out of God’s generosity. Keep a sharp eye out for weeds of bitter discontent. A thistle or two gone to seed can ruin a whole garden in no time.”
Hebrews 12:14-15 MSG
Marriage Monday: January 8, 2018
The Trinity in a marriage generates Unity in a marriage.
“Is there any encouragement from belonging to Christ? Any comfort from his love? Any fellowship together in the Spirit? Are your hearts tender and compassionate?
Then make me truly happy by agreeing wholeheartedly with each other, loving one another, and working together with one mind and purpose.”
Philippians 2:1-2 NLT