marriage monday
Marriage Monday: June 18, 2018

BECOMING one is a process, but it doesn’t ‘just happen’ over time.

After almost 42 years we are still on the journey. Our process has had highs and lows; but we are intentional about keeping our relationship on the front burner. Some of the ways we invest in the process include going to marriage retreats, praying together, working through issues instead of burying them, and speaking truth in love. We are in community with other intentional couples.

It’s never too late to become intentional about BECOMING one. Here’s a good place to start: Couple Checkup.

“and the two will become one flesh.”
Mark 10:8 NIV

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marriage monday
Marriage Monday: June 4, 2018

Three simple steps to cultivating a great marriage:
1. Do good
2. Do pray
3. Do thank

I DO! Sometimes.  When I DON’T, it teaches me how to improve the next time. Failures didn’t stop Edison, and they won’t stop me. We are all on a journey and none of us has arrived yet. Strive for the three DO’s to cultivate a great marriage. Do You?

“Make sure that nobody pays back wrong for wrong, but always strive to do what is good for each other and for everyone else. Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.”
‭‭1 Thessalonians‬ ‭5:15-18‬ ‭NIV‬

Marriage Monday: May 28, 2018
Bruce and I are perfectly matched-opposite in every possible way! We are attracted to our opposites, but too often we just want to change the other person to be more like us. Allow your spouse’s differences to temper you to achieve balance.
Dreamer vs Detracter
Self-reliant vs Needy
Stubborn vs Compromising
Control Freak vs No Control
Detached vs Agitated
“Be well balanced (temperate, sober of mind), be vigilant and cautious at all times; for that enemy of yours, the devil, roams around like a lion roaring [in fierce hunger], seeking someone to seize upon and devour.”
‭‭1 Peter‬ ‭5:8‬ ‭AMPC‬‬
marriage monday
Marriage Monday: May 21, 2018‬‬

A branch can’t receive life from another branch. The branches of a grapevine get their life from the main trunk or vine.

My husband and I are like two branches on a vine. If he’s my source of life, we both get dried up. If God’s our source of life, we both get filled up.

“I am the sprouting vine and you’re my branches. As you live in union with me as your source, fruitfulness will stream from within you—but when you live separated from me you are powerless.”
‭‭John‬ ‭15:5‬ ‭TPT‬‬

reconciliation not retribution
Reconciliation not retribution

“Healing does not barter back everything tragedy steals, but when we enter it together, we already co-midwife a kinder tomorrow.“ Hana Shapiro

God asks for reconciliation, not retribution. The ministry of reconciliation is won only through God’s love., and is the only way to have peace with healing. Whether the aggrieved parties are 2 prickly people or 2 prickly people groups, reconciliation is about winning in the future. Retribution is about losing in the past. #pricklypeople

A portion of my book profits for Making Peace with Prickly People are donated to Musalaha (see more about this on my Prickly People page). Here’s an article about their current work of reconciliation in the middle east. 

“He will judge between the nations and decide for many peoples. They will beat their swords into plowshares, and their spears into pruning knives. Nation will not lift up sword against nation, nor will they learn war any more. Come house of Jacob, let us walk in the light of ADONAI.”
‭‭Isaiah‬ ‭2:4-5‬ ‭TLV‬‬

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Marriage Monday: May 7, 2018

Abba, help me pause before pinning the blame on my prickly spouse. Pride puts blinders on me too.

“Look at the proud! They trust in themselves, and their lives are crooked. But the righteous will live by their faithfulness to God.”
‭‭Habakkuk‬ ‭2:4‬ ‭NLT