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Marriage Monday: September 18, 2017

This is Marriage Math: God is One, spouse is Two.

If spouse is One, we put enormous pressure on him. He will fail us because he’s not God. Then we fall out of love.

“First we idolize, then we demonize.” Craig Groeschel

“Of all the commandments, which is the most important?” “The most important one,” answered Jesus, “is this: ‘Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’”
‭‭Mark‬ ‭12:28-30‬ ‭NIV

How to Grow in Faith – the Eaters and the Feeders Part II

How to grow in faithThis is part two of a two part series on how to grow in faith. When we feed our babies, they grow and thrive. In the same way, Christians grow and thrive when they’re “fed.” Who are the “feeders?” They are those who know where to get the best food, and who are willing to give some to others. This post is about those I call the Feeders.

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Marriage-like life-is a marathon. The only way you’re going to make it to the finish line is by keeping your eyes on the prize.

We were married on Labor Day weekend, and marriage is labor! Work at oneness, humility, respect, and love. Focus on changing me, not him! Before you know it you’ll be in this season of intense satisfaction. Celebrating 41 years today with my partner in this race.

Doesn’t matter where you are in your marriage – barely begun, in the middle, in the last lap, or even in do-over marriage, it’s never too late to go for the prize. We didn’t start taking it seriously until our 19th year of marriage. You can do it too!

“Don’t you realize that in a race everyone runs, but only one person gets the prize? So run to win!”
‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭9:24‬ ‭NLT‬‬

How to Grow in Faith – the Eaters & the Feeders Part I

How to grow in faith

This is part one of a two part series on how to grow in faith. Christians are part of a huge puzzle. People use their gifts to connect with people who need those gifts so they can grow in their faith and use their gifts to help still others. There is a progression as we join God’s kingdom, a progression of maturity or spiritual growth. I think of the two roles in this connection as the Eaters and the Feeders. This post is about those I call the Eaters – who need to be fed.

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It’s hard to sit in the Waiting Room. Are you wondering how long the wait will be for a vibrant, life-giving marriage? God’s actively present ‘in’ the waiting…are you?

“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”
‭‭Matthew‬ ‭11:28-30‬ ‭NIV‬‬

marriage monday

Most of the spouses who call for help on the marriage hotline self-identify as the spiritually mature ones. That’s wonderful news for the marriage-if they can live worthy of their calling.

“As a prisoner for the Lord, then, I urge you to live a life worthy of the calling you have received. Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace.”
‭‭Ephesians‬ ‭4:1-3‬ ‭NIV‬‬